One of my favorite movie is Crash not because it has an interesting story line; but because it made me think about how it is so easy for some of us to talk and interact with total strangers without fear while some of us are too leary or frighten to even say hi. I think we have become so fixated on the belief that the world is a big bad place and that there are bad people living in it who will hurt us that we forget about the fact that there is a ying and a yang to everything. Have some of us become so skeptical and hardened that we forget about the goodness of others? Have some of us become so enamored with that picture of the “world gone crazy” that we don’t take dare take a chance give others the benefit of the doubt? Do we only interact with people whom we think we can trust or whom we have known forever because we let our sense of self-preservation dominate our every move, thought and action? Do we purposely let our own insecurity, prejudice and bigotry rule us because it is easier than to confront the truth about ourselves? I think one of the best way to discover who we are as a person is through our interactions with others and their reactions to us. The movie guy from IMDB (the internet movie database) said, “People are born with good hearts, but they grow up and learn prejudices.” I have to say I am one of those naive people who still have faith in the “goodness of humanity” that I allow people into my life and give them the benefit of the doubt until they prove me wrong.
The movie starts out with these thought provoking lines,”It’s the sense of touch. In any real city, you walk, you know? You brush past people, people bump into you. In L.A., nobody touches you. We’re always behind this metal and glass. I think we miss that touch so much, that we crash into each other, just so we can feel something.” Have we become so busy and self-absorb that we don’t take the time to be civil to each other or total strangers because we think they will expect more from us? I think sometimes we need to be reminded about the pleasure we can get and give in our interaction with others through a simple and heartfelt ” Hello!How are you?!” and make the other person really believe that we are asking because we really care and that it’s not just an impersonal greeting. All of us friends, lovers, families and strangers need to “crash” into each other as a reminder that we are all human and significant to each other. Knowing that someone cares for us, makes life worth living and savoring. I’ll end with words from one of my favorite hero, the honorable Dalai Lama:
“Consider the following. We humans are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others’ actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others’ activities. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.”