What race do Asian woman date if they go outside their race? From my observation, there seems to be a great deal of Asian woman dating white males more than any other race.
I grew up in a large Laotian community. As a teenager, I never witness any Lao people in my community who dated another race except my cousin and my brother. Both of them dated white people. I did not witness anybody dating black or hispanic people. Upon reflection I realize that in the Lao community I grew up in, there was an unspoken understanding or expectation that all Lao people date only Lao people. I don’t remember anybody challenging the status quo while I was a teenage except my brother and cousin. Come to think of it, I think the younger generations did not date outside the Lao community because there were plenty of people to choose from so it was expected that you pick from your own race. However, if you grew up in a community where there are a shortage of Lao people, then is there really any choice but to date outside your race?
Before entering in any serious interracial relationship it is important to consider some important points:
Does your potential partner respect your culture?
Do they understand what is expected of them when it comes to behavior in that community?
Are they willing to learn, be a part of a totally new culture?
Interracial relationship can be difficult if both partners do not communicate what their expectations are or they refuse to compromise. For example, I have a friend who was stressed out because her boyfriend had a difficult time understanding why she is always helping her family out especially financially. When she would do that, he would ask her why does she have to give money to her family since they are adults. When she explained that she was brought that when a family member needs help, you do it. He said she is an adult now so she can say no. Since he was brought up in an environment where everybody had to fend for themselves, it was hard for him to understand her point of view.
Interracial relationship can work if both parties are honest about their expectations before it gets too serious like marriage. It would be a mistake to believe that your partner will change because more than likely they will not. Actually it is their prerogative to believe what they want and act the way they want, but will you be able to live with that? It comes down to you to decide how much you are willing to compromise or sacrifice in order for your relationship to work.
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