In honor of Love: Happy Valentines Day

Valentines Day is just around the corner so I thought I would write something about what a woman wants from a man.  Of course I can’t speak for every woman, this is just my view point.  I’m sure most men would want the same thing.

1. A woman wants a man who is present and “focus on the moment, the experience” .  What I mean by that gentlemen, is when you are with a woman, give her your undivided attention. No cell phones, distractions or other people.  Enjoy the moment and appreciate that she chooses you to be with so don’t waste your time being distracted. Appreciate every moment.

2. A woman wants a man who is not afraid to show her that he is proud, honored, and yes even lucky to be with her.  He can show this through his actions.  I remember watching an interview with Faith Hill and Tim McGraw on Oprah.  On the show they sang a duet, and the way they were looking at each other, the emotions in their voices, came clearly through that they were in love and proud of it.

3. A woman wants a man who loves her unconditionally.  A man who truly loves a woman does not expect the woman to do this or that or be like this or that.  He accepts her as she is physically, spirtually, and emotionally.

4. A woman wants a man to show her respect.  If  a man loves a woman as deeply as he says he does, he treats her honorably through his words and deeds.

5. A woman needs a man who is strong in morals and values because what he says and does reflects back on her.  A woman needs a strong man to be always be there for her.

6.  A woman needs a man whom she can trust with all her worries and fears.  He is the first person she can turn to because she knows he will not judge  or ridicule her.

7.  A woman needs a man who is faithful and loyal.  A strong man will easily turn away from any temptation because he values the love he has. Toni Braxton’s song Love Shoulda Brought You Home is a perfect example of how if a man really loves a woman, his love would have brought him home. My favorite sonnet by Shakepeare says it all:

Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or Bends with the remover to remove.
O, no! It is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests and is never shaken.
It is the star to every wandering bark,
whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.

— William Shakespeare

8.  A woman needs a man to show her how much he wants and desire her above all others.  The term “making love” can be meaningful and deep if the man  knows what that means.  Making love is not just a physical gratification, it’s an emotional connection during that moment.  It’s that intense feeling a woman gets when she feels the love her man has for her.  The song Touch by Touch by Modern Talking really gets the point across about love, desire and appreciating the person you are with.

9.  A woman needs a man who is confident in himself and his ability to keep her by his side.  A woman does not need a man who will accuse her of cheating everytime she talks to other men or leaves his sight. 

10. A woman needs a man who is honest with his feelings and emotions.  A trustworthy man will not give any reason for his woman to doubt his love. Like William Shakespeare said, In thy face I see honor, truth and loyalty.

I hope everybody finds the love you are looking for. For those who has been hurt by love, just remember that there’s plenty of love left in the world that it will come around again.


7 thoughts on “In honor of Love: Happy Valentines Day

  1. Valentine is a special day for couples, but when put it this way, is it really all about ‘her’?

    On special day such as this, I often think of couples that are apart, especially of the service men and women out there that have to sacrifice, which also meant being away from their family and loved ones on this special day. It’s heartbreaking to be apart, but heartwarming to hear stories when they reunite again, I believed true love stands the test of time, whether near or far. I hope you’ve a happy valentine’s day. 🙂

  2. Laotian Teacher

    Ginger, you are right, Valentines Day is about the love a couple shares. I agree that true love stands the test of time whether near or far. It takes both a strong man and woman to be in a loving and committed relationship. I wish you plenty of love, friendship and romance:)

  3. Dallas

    It is about love people share with one another.
    I think the man should dedicated himself to his family and the women should support him in the hardest of time. It is this commitment both people believe in and have toward one another that will last a lifetime.

  4. Laotian Teacher,

    I think for a Lao woman, I would add that we want a man that also loves our family as much as we do.

    I think of Valentine’s Day as a bonus and how we treat each other on a daily basis is more important. It’s the little things that count. Usually on Valentine’s Day we celebrate as a family by showing our parents how much we love them and also the relatives back home.

    I know what we can do on this Valentine’s Day, instead of getting a dozen roses or a box of chocolate or that expensive gift, we should ask our man to donate the money to support the first International Lao New Year. 🙂

  5. Laotian Teacher

    Dallas, you right that if both people believe in and have toward each other bout supporting each other in the hardest time then it will work. However, if it is one sided then it will not work. When love is mutually valueable then it will last. Happy V day to you and your wife.

    Darly,I like what you said about treating each other daily in the right way. We should show our family how much we love them everyday, but maybe on Valentines Day to really show our appreciation of them.

    Thank Darly for the kind suggestion of supporting the International Lao New Year. Please spread the word for us, we need all the help we can get! I wish you, Nye, and Dallas can come join Amphone and in San Francisco so we can all meet! Much love to you all!

  6. Laotian Teacher, thanks for the invitation, since I came back from Laos, I think I’m not allowed to fly for a while, hopefully not grounded for life. It’s my dream to one day visit CA, and hopefully in the near future. Please do take lots of picture to share, and looking forward to reading about the Lao New Year at yours and Amphone’s blog.

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