Are men’s magazine to blame for men’s obsession with the perfect woman?

One of the most popular men’s magazine is Men’s Health. It offers a variety of tips and advice on things we men and women are obsessed about such as: Fitness, Sex & Woman, Health, Nutrition, Weight Loss, Style and much more.I have to admit I even read this magazine and I’m pretty certain that many women read it as well. Obviously this magazine’s main objective is to cater to men and their interest. With article title such as, “The Sexiest Models in Men’s Health History”, it is no wonder that the online magazine gets a heavy amount of traffic. I even look to see who are these hot women and judge for myself if they are the sexy. I have to admit the women they picked are beautiful but also most of them are blond “bombshells”. I didn’t see any Asians, African Americans or any other noticeable ethnicity. This baffles me because I know there are tons of gorgeous ethnic women out there but yet they didn’t even feature one? I can’t really say I’m surprised by this lack of diversity because in most magazines the idea of beauty or what is sexy that is perpetrated seem to be the all “American girl” which equates to blonds with long legs, perfect body, long hair and big boobs. Before anybody gets mad, I’m not racist or a hater but this is just my observation. Also, I have to admit there are more magazines now today that features racially diverse models than a couple of years ago. However, the question I have is: Are men’s magazine to blame for men’s obsession with the perfect woman? Are men obsessed with blondes because that is mostly what are in the men’s magazine? Do men even care that the pictures are photo shopped, alter or modify to create these “perfect” images for their viewing pleasure? Is that why there is a rise in plastic surgery because women feel that they have to be perfect like these photo shopped women? What form’s a young man’s or young woman’s concept of beauty? Are magazines to blame for their unrealistic perception of beauty?

For those of you interested in seeing the photos of the sexiest women in “Men’s Health” here is the link: Men’s Health Magazine

If you want to see some samples of pictures of celebrities and models before and after photoshop, go to:

Respect yourself! Don’t wreck yourself!

A couple of weeks ago, Megan Fox said in in a recent interview with Esquire that she’s uncomfortable being a sex symbol. On the cover of the magazine she is wearing nothing more than her bra and underwear with a jacket thrown over the ensemble to show a semblance of decency. When she was asked if she liked her picture she said “I felt powerless in that image,” she says. “I didn’t feel powerful. It ate every other part of my personality, not for me but for how people saw me, because there was nothing else to see or know. That devalued me. Because I wasn’t anything. I was an image. I was a picture. I was a pose.” I find this ironic because her picture contradicts her words. If she is so uncomfortable about being portrayed as a sex symbol then why is she half naked on the cover? Why don’t she put on the rest of her outfit like a shirt and pants or skirt to cover up her undergarments? Otherwise, she should just  quit complaining about being objectified because nobody will believe a word she says!

This story reminds me of how so many women complain about the unwanted attention from men but yet do nothing to dispel it but instead intensify it by walking around showing all their goods. Ladies, there’s nothing wrong with dressing how you want but don’t complain if you get the wrong kind of attention or too much attention. Just own it! Smile and say thank you instead of acting all outrageous and angry when the opposite sex hoot and hollar ! Just because you dress like a vamp doesn’t mean you have to be one or act like one.

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red than her lips’ red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damask’d, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground.
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.

William Shakespeare (1564 – 1616)

To me Shakespeare is the master of the manipulation of words to express the wide range of human emotions. His love poems are beautiful because the words expresses a vivid picture that lingers in our minds even after we read it. The words inspire some of us to give more in our relationships. Also, the powerful words even motivate some of us to reach a greater emotional height than we thought possible.

Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day and Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediments are two of his most well known and beloved poems. For some romantics out there, these two poems expresses the ideal emotions or beliefs of what love is like. Whereas I find the two poems at the top of the list of my favorite love poems, I have to admit his ” My mistress’s eyes are nothing like the sun” is also romantic in a weird way. I love this poem because it speaks of unconditional love. A man and vice versa should love each other unconditionally without doubt or reservation. I like the fact that in this poem the narrator admits his lady love is not the most good looking or most desirable to some people, but to him she is everything.

For some people looks doesn’t matter. Well, at least it is not the most important thing in a relationship. Is it just the romantics who believe that love conquers all or that love is blind? Are men more obsessed with physical beauty than women? What is the first thing a man notices about a woman? As for a woman, what does she notice first? The smile of a man or his physicality? Can a relationship endure once that beauty wanes or will the two lovers give into temptation? Do we blame human nature for everything because it is a cop out? Can religion, culture, and our background affect our relationship. For example, some people stay together because they take their vows literally, “Until death do us part”. However, for others, it’s more like until you screw up and I can’t stand you anymore or the grass is greener on the other side. Are men more tempted than woman by physical beauty?