Thanks for sharing!

Everyone knows that sex sell unless you are living under a rock or totally oblivious to everything around you.The majority of the popular ads, magazines, movies, books, and music centers around sex. In the movie,” Thanks for Sharing” they convey this idea by showing you flashes of huge billboards and magazines with sexy models posing in skimpy underwear. It is no wonder our society is so sexual or obsess with sex when everyday we are bombarded with these sexy images everywhere we go and everything we looked at.

The movie,” Thanks for Sharing” is definitely entertaining but informative at the same time. The movie stars Mark Ruffalo and Gwyneth Paltrow. It is about sex addicts like Mark’s character and the daily struggles he and others go through to say “sober” and not give in to the “disease” as he called it. I have to say it was actually a good movie because of the well developed and dynamic characters in the movie. I actually learned a great deal about sex addicts and their ‘proclivities”. Also the movie made me understand more about their struggles especially when one of the characters said ” Trying to quit being a sex addict is like trying to quit crack while the pipe is attached to your body.” This analogy definitely was effective and actually made me think how difficult it is for sex addicts to control their impulses.

After watching this movie, I have a better understanding of the struggles of a sex addict. Also, it made me wonder when our society become so center on sex? According to a stat from the movie, ” An average person thinks about sex 15 times a day.” Is that because we are living in a society that promotes sexual freedom and exploration?

Red thread of destiny

Inexplicable 
Sadness overwhelms my soul
My heart in pieces 
The red thread of destiny
No longer binds me to you

The Human Need to Connect

The human need to connect is irresistible and undeniable even for the most recluse hermit. In some way, shape or form, we want to reach out and touch someone whether literally or figuratively. To try to stop this most basic and  instinctive need or urge is like trying to pull two magnets apart! We can try but we may not always be successful in our attempts to be alone. At some point we are going to be tempted or all together give up our vows of silence or need to connect with other person because we can’t help ourselves. No matter what we believe, at the end of the day we want to feel loved, needed, admired, or respected by others. Some of us may have a stronger need for other people’s adulation than others. However, even the most stubborn individual eventually gives in to that overwhelming desire to slide right into that empty jigsaw puzzle so we can become part of the puzzle. We want to feel like we are that LAST and all  IMPORTANT missing piece that has fallen off the table that everyone is scrabbling to find. Hence, that is why so many of us join the social network like Facebook or Twitter. We join because we want to be a part of the big picture. Is the human need to connect irresistible? Undeniable? Or even fated or destined? Are our actions or choices just a  link in the chain of life? Watching the show, Touch inspires me to consider the possibility that there is a rhyme and reason to everything and that we can’t escape our destiny. It’s like that Legend of the Chinese Red Thread, “An invisible red thread connects those destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstances. The thread may stretch or tangle, but never break.”

 

Bare Naked

Yesterday, when I was eating my favorite granola from the Bear Naked company, I read their little blurb on the back of the package. What got my attention was this phrase: strip away the clutter and truly live your life. I love it because it reminded me of how sometimes we “clutter” our lives with the wrong people, things, or thoughts that end up stressing us out. It’s ridiculous how we put up with people because we don’t want to hurt their feelings or we are simply too tired to put up a fight.Also, why do we waste our time complaining about things we can’t change? Why do we allow ourselves to get worked up over something someone says to us or about us? Why do we give others the power to control our lives, thoughts and action when we are fully capable of being in the driver’s seat? Why are we afraid to live our life the way we want?

Angry and clothed, there I sit
Nobody cares or gives a shit
Slowly I rise, fist pumping
One by one, buttons popping,
Scattered on the floor,
As I stride toward the door,
People gaping…gasping, “ Who does she think she is?”
I shouted, “ Whoever I want to be!”

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red than her lips’ red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damask’d, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground.
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.

William Shakespeare (1564 – 1616)

To me Shakespeare is the master of the manipulation of words to express the wide range of human emotions. His love poems are beautiful because the words expresses a vivid picture that lingers in our minds even after we read it. The words inspire some of us to give more in our relationships. Also, the powerful words even motivate some of us to reach a greater emotional height than we thought possible.

Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day and Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediments are two of his most well known and beloved poems. For some romantics out there, these two poems expresses the ideal emotions or beliefs of what love is like. Whereas I find the two poems at the top of the list of my favorite love poems, I have to admit his ” My mistress’s eyes are nothing like the sun” is also romantic in a weird way. I love this poem because it speaks of unconditional love. A man and vice versa should love each other unconditionally without doubt or reservation. I like the fact that in this poem the narrator admits his lady love is not the most good looking or most desirable to some people, but to him she is everything.

For some people looks doesn’t matter. Well, at least it is not the most important thing in a relationship. Is it just the romantics who believe that love conquers all or that love is blind? Are men more obsessed with physical beauty than women? What is the first thing a man notices about a woman? As for a woman, what does she notice first? The smile of a man or his physicality? Can a relationship endure once that beauty wanes or will the two lovers give into temptation? Do we blame human nature for everything because it is a cop out? Can religion, culture, and our background affect our relationship. For example, some people stay together because they take their vows literally, “Until death do us part”. However, for others, it’s more like until you screw up and I can’t stand you anymore or the grass is greener on the other side. Are men more tempted than woman by physical beauty?