There is no Prince Charming so…

Recently Jennifer Lopez did an interview for InStyle magazine in which she  said, “I was waiting for Prince Charming. Everybody I met was going to be the guy I was going to spend my life with.” This comment reminded me of a conversation I had with my 17 year daughter a couple of months ago.

 

As a habit, we always sit in the car and talk after we get home from somewhere instead of going up to our apartment. Sometimes it’s because we are lazy or if there is a good song on the radio, we would say, ” Let’s sit for ten minutes or after this song then we will get down.” So on one of them nights, we were talking about her friends and how they were shock that she never had any types of relationship with anybody.

My daughter is 17, fixing to be 18 in February and has never had a boyfriend. In this day and age that is very RARE indeed. It’s not that she doesn’t want one or she’s holding out for her Prince Charming. And there has been plenty of guys who have liked her but either it was the wrong timing or the feeling wasn’t mutual. So as she was telling me about her how most of her friends already had sex or some type of fling or dating experience, I was thinking to myself, ” Thank God she hasn’t done none of those things because I am not ready to deal with that shit!” Before I even finished that thought she said, ” Mom I don’t think mothers should raise their daughters on the false promise that a Knight in Shining Armor or Prince Charming is going to show up one day and give them a happily ever after.” I cautiously asked her, ” You don’t believe in a fairy tale ending or believe in true love?” She replied, ” I believe in living in the moment and not think about what’s going to happen or if the relationship is going to last. Maybe the person that we are at this moment may not need anything more than just what we get or have with that person. Maybe down the road they may not be who we want or need and that’s okay.”  I nodded my head slowly while reflecting on my own beliefs and said cautiously ” I know what you are saying and I agree to a certain extent but I still believe in a happily ever after.” My daughter laughs at my typical and romantic response and says, ” Well, either there are no Prince Charming or mine got lost in the woods or got too lazy to find me so…”

Love through the eyes of Andrea Bocelli

 

Two weeks ago I received the best gift from my little sister, Khonnie. It was just an ordinary day for such a special gift and totally unexpected. It made me realize how much I love surprises and how much my sister knows me and remembers things I tell her. So here is the message she sent me on facebook that made my day in a stressful week.

“Hey..do you want to go see Andrea Bocelli in concert at Hollywood bowl on Sat..June 8..we will go up that morning and come back Sun..we are staying at Chateau Marmont..where all the stars go…let me know..I’ll buy your tix..call me after 8:30pm”.

I was besides myself with joy!! Was I going to say no to Andrea Bocelli and Chateau Marmont?! I think not especially when he is my favorite singer! I love Andrea because his romantic songs reminds me that I should never give up on finding true love that is passionate and all consuming. His songs expresses the many facet of love from the sweet to the passionate to the magical and even tragic.

Take his song Someone Like You, it expresses a love that is sweet and pure. Who would not want to be told:

For me if one dream can come true
Then I will love someone like you
In your eyes I see
A life that could mean so much more
With you next to me

How about Besame Mucho ( Kiss me a lot) which is a sad love song about the fear of losing someone you love. All of us can surely identify with this. I think it songs more sad and romantic when he is singing it in Spanish than English because the emotions he is expressing is not lost in translation.

Kiss me , kiss me a lot
As if tonight it was
The last time

Kiss me, kiss me a lot
Me who fears of losing you
Losing you afterwards

Here’s one of my favorite, one that resonates deeply in my heart and reminds me of the kind of love I want and need. Por ti Volare is simply heart wrenching and romantic. Reminds me of my favorite part of a man:  his voice.

When you’re far away
I dream of an horizon
with no words
and I know that you’re always there, there
A moon made for me
always illuminated for me
after me, after me, after me

For you I’ll fly
wait till I arrive
the end of my journey is you
to live just the two of us

I love this song he did with Sarah Brightman, Time with say goodbye. Their voices blend so well.

When you are far away
I dream of the horizon
And words fail,
And, yes, I know
That you are with me;
You, my moon, are here with me,
My sun, you are here with me
With me, with me, with me.

Time to say goodbye.
To countries I never
Saw and shared with you,
Now, yes, I shall experience them.
I’ll go with you
On ships across seas
Which, I know,
No, no, exist no longer

 

 

 

 

What is love?

After watching the movie, This means war, I am left to wonder, what is that IT factor that helps us decide if someone is the ONE? What if the person that you fall for is not really who they say they are but a shell of the real person? How about if they are projecting their best quality to snare you into their trap and once you are  there, you realize too late that they are not meant for you? Are some of us so desperate for love that we will make something out of nothing at all? Can we fall just about anything and make them into something that we want?

If you haven’t seen the movie, and you like romantic comedy then check out the trailer: