Get to the point!

According to the article,The Scientific Flaws of Online Dating Sites, in Scientific America: “Every day, millions of single adults, worldwide, visit an online dating site.The industry—eHarmony, Match, OkCupid, and a thousand other online dating sites—wants singles and the general public to believe that seeking a partner through their site is not just an alternative way to traditional venues for finding a partner, but a superior way. Is it?” This is a good question to think about. Online dating is one of the most popular way of finding someone but is it really the most effective way? I know many people who have used some of these sites and their feelings has been mixed. One young lady said, ” Many guys say that they want a relationship on their profile but when you meet them, they really don’t. They are grown men playing games and not really looking for anything serious.” To be fair that is just one person’s opinion. Another friend had a better experience. She said, ” I like Match.com and have met some nice men whom I have gone out for coffee and dinner with and that’s it. I like not having to commit more than I am willing to give.”  

The bottom line is there are many dating sites out there that fits your level of interest. I guess you just have to take a chance to find an honest person who gets to the point and tells you exactly what they want. Because of the increase in online dating, does that mean we are more desperate, more lazy or just smarter? What’s more effective? Online or traditional? 

Dumb Criminals!

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Image taken from Opposing Views website:  http://www.opposingviews.com/i/society/citizen-journalist-team-uses-online-tools-pinpoint-isis-training-camp-photos

 

Many people have heard about the horrific beheading of the journalist, James Foley by the terrorist group, the ISIS. As recent as last Friday, President Obama has ruled this incident as a terrorist attack on the U.S. and is considering different options on how to retaliate against this militant group.  Maybe President Obama can consult with the investigative journalist group, the Bellingcat, if he wants to know the location of the terrorist group. According to the site, Opposing Views, “A group of citizen journalists was able to pinpoint the location of an Islamic State training camp using nothing but free internet tools.”  I’m sure right now the ISIS group is regretting their twits and scrambling to take down those damning pictures that lead to the Bellingcats’ discovery of their training camp. For the detail description of how the investigative journalist figure out the location using available internet tools such as Twitter, Flash Earth and Google Earth to locate these dumb criminals visit: http://www.opposingviews.com/i/society/citizen-journalist-team-uses-online-tools-pinpoint-isis-training-camp-photos.

 

*** I’m sorry if I offended anyone for call the ISIS dumb criminals but when it comes to heinous crimes like the beheading of journalists, I get a little heated.

Men can’t help being obsess with breasts?

Due to the rise in breasts implants in the past couple of years, I begun to wonder if men are to blame. Before you guys get angry or think I’m a man hater, just hear me out first. Based on what I have seen, read and observe on the social media and magazines, it seems that the majority of men love big breasted women and women in turn have cater to their “needs” or “obsession” by getting implants. According to an article from Huff Post,”American Bra Size Average Increases…” average bra size has jumped from a 34B 20 years ago to a 34DD in 2013. Weight gain and breast implants have played a role in the increase. I have to agree with Huff that there have been a rise in breast implants even among my ethnic group the Laotian Americans. For example, I have lost count of the number of Laotian women on Facebook who have gotten breasts enlargement. Even the younger generations of Lao women are getting breast implants. This new fad is sweeping the Laotian community like wildfire and the men seem to encourage it by the comments they make on Facebook. So now breast implants seem to be the norm not the exception in the Laotian community. I have always said that women should do what makes them happy. However,I’m still shock at how many Laotian women feel the need to get breast implants. It seems like it’s almost a competition among the various group of women I have seen and the men are eating it up.

Back to the real reason of this post which is why men are obsessed with breasts big or small. According to Huff Post article, Breasts: The Real Reason Men Love Them, “There’s only one neurological explanation, and it has to do with brain mechanisms that promote the powerful bond of a mother to her infant.” This bond is formed through breast feeding where the mother “imprints” the child. According to the article,”Oxytocin, acting in concert with dopamine, also helps imprint the newborn’s face, smell and sounds in the mother’s reward circuitry, making nursing and nurturing a feel-good experience, motivating her to keep doing it and forging the mother-infant bond. This bond is not only the most beautiful of all social bonds, it can also be the most enduring, lasting a lifetime.” So basically when the child is touching, ‘manipulating’ the mother’s breasts, a chemical called oxytocin is triggered which then releases the milk. That is the best I can explain it. So
based on this information I am going to assume that men who are breastfeed are more fascinated or obsessed of breasts because of that earlier “imprinting” and bond they had form with their mothers? Makes me it the men who were breast fed as a child are more obsessed with breasts.

Thanks for sharing!

Everyone knows that sex sell unless you are living under a rock or totally oblivious to everything around you.The majority of the popular ads, magazines, movies, books, and music centers around sex. In the movie,” Thanks for Sharing” they convey this idea by showing you flashes of huge billboards and magazines with sexy models posing in skimpy underwear. It is no wonder our society is so sexual or obsess with sex when everyday we are bombarded with these sexy images everywhere we go and everything we looked at.

The movie,” Thanks for Sharing” is definitely entertaining but informative at the same time. The movie stars Mark Ruffalo and Gwyneth Paltrow. It is about sex addicts like Mark’s character and the daily struggles he and others go through to say “sober” and not give in to the “disease” as he called it. I have to say it was actually a good movie because of the well developed and dynamic characters in the movie. I actually learned a great deal about sex addicts and their ‘proclivities”. Also the movie made me understand more about their struggles especially when one of the characters said ” Trying to quit being a sex addict is like trying to quit crack while the pipe is attached to your body.” This analogy definitely was effective and actually made me think how difficult it is for sex addicts to control their impulses.

After watching this movie, I have a better understanding of the struggles of a sex addict. Also, it made me wonder when our society become so center on sex? According to a stat from the movie, ” An average person thinks about sex 15 times a day.” Is that because we are living in a society that promotes sexual freedom and exploration?

You are going to be wild and crazy!

First year of college

First year of college

My parents sent me off to college with twenty dollars, a rice basket, food and some linens for my bed. I remember sitting there in my dorm thinking to myself, ” What do I do now?” My dorm mate would not arrive until a couple of days later since I was early. I had no friends there yet.Actually nobody was there in the dorms yet except the Resident Hall Assistants who was getting everything ready for the influx of students. Since my brother was the Resident Hall Assistant at Lincoln Hall, an all boys dorm next door to my dorm I was able to get into my dorm a day or two before the others.

On that first day of college I really did not know what I should do first because I was so used to following my parents’ order. So there I was all alone, with nobody telling me what to do and when to do things. It was exciting but frightening at the same time because I didn’t want to make the wrong choices or decisions that would effect my education efforts. Also I didn’t want to fulfill my friends and co-workers prediction that I was going to go wild and crazy in college and become a rabid sex fiend like they thought I would. You have to understand that I grew up in a very controlling, traditional Laotian household where dating was off limits, where interactions with boys were monitored and discouraged by my parents. My mom in particular was known in the community for her strict treatment of us girls. So because I grew up in a strict environment, my friends and co-workers always joked that I was going to let lose in college and party it up. Ironically, their “predictions” became of motivation for me to stay on course. Yes I did go to parties, dances and sporting events but I didn’t have the desire to act wild and crazy like said. I had fun without drinking or sleeping around or doing anything too outrageous.

Here’s several advice I have for a first year college student:
1. Surround yourself with the right kinds of friends and participate in activities that the college has to offer. For example intramurals sports, clubs, and sporting events.
2. Take at least 12 credit hours the first semester but no more than that to test out your ability to time manage.
3. Print out your degree plan so you can use that as a guide and to do list. This will save you so much time in the long run because it will stop you from taking random classes that does not count toward a degree. At the end of every semester I would highlight the classes that I completed.
4. Don’t sit in your dorm room studying all the time. Go out and have fun hanging out with people or explore the campus and town.
5. Go to parties with people whom you trust know for certain will not abandon you there.
6. If you qualify, do workstudy. There are plenty of jobs on campus. I worked at he museum on campus and at the boys dorms which was so easy.
7. Be careful about putting your job before your education. Yes, I know some of you will have to work to pay for your tuition but if it interferes in your studies, then you should reconsider. Get a student loan if you have to.

How you do during your freshmen depends on you making the right choices. My first semester I had four C’s not because I was not focus but because the classes I had was a little challenging except for music appreciation and slimnastic. Once I figure out how to balance my time, how to communicate with the professor and how to manage myself as a on independent young adult, my grades improved by the second semester. The bottom line is it is a trial and error. You will learn quickly what works and what don’t. Just hang in there and stay focus.

First year college transcript

First year college transcript

Are mediums fake?

Psychic business card

Psychic business card

I don’t know when my obsession with ghosts, spirits and the paranormal begun. I blame it on my childhood and growing up in a household where those things were discussed freely like the weather. In fact my mom would let us watch scary movies all the time when we were younger. Also she would answer any questions we had about ghosts and spirits. It is no wonder that I became obsessed with watching psychics and mediums like John Edwards, James Van Praagh and Sylvia Brown.

When friend asked if I wanted to go to a medium party I said yes. According to her the medium is very good and she can really channel spirits from the other side. I asked her, “Where did you meet this woman?’ She said, ” I met her at the Terror Con Convention in June.” Okay that got me interested because I love horror or paranormal movies and shows. I was thinking to myself, ” Okay if this medium was at the Terror Con she can’t be that bad.”

There were four of us who decided to get our reading done with the medium. My sister-in law went first and I decided to go last. When it was turn I went down to the basement and she asked me what my name was and if I wanted her to go over the whole ritual of how she does things. I told her, no, since she did that with us as a group. Then she sat there with her eyes closed and started rubbing on a white rock for about 3 minutes saying nothing. Then when she finally opened her eyes to look at me, she said, ” I sense a Tibetan monk around you, what is that about?” Right then and there, I knew this lady is a fake. First of all, I can tell where this reading was heading which is she is going to latch on the whole Asian mystic/culture thing and try to use what she knows about it to give me her “spiritual reading”. Anyway, my response to her was, ” I don’t know.” I decided there and then I was not going to “help” her reading by confirming or denying anything she says so she can use it to con me. For the next 5-10 minutes she kept talking about me giving respect to my ancestors and to teach my kids about cultural traditions. I felt like she was giving me a lecture about cultural norms and traditions then an actual reading. The bottom line is she was a horrible medium and I wasted $70. She sucked at cold reading. For example, she asked me, ” What’s up with the third child?” I responded, ” I don’t know.” Then she tried to get me to say more by prodding, ” Are you surrounded by kids or work with kids or do you have kids or do your kids have a friend who is over at the house a lot?” I had wanted to tell her, ” No shit Sherlock, there’s kids around me all the time because I’m a teacher”. However, I didn’t want to give her even that information because then she would use it for the cold reading. So I said, ” Yes there’s kids around.” Then she asked, ” Do you have kids?” I said, ” Yes.” Then she tried to have me confess to having a third child by asking delicately, ” I sense a third child around you, did you lose a child?” I said, ” Nope!” At this point, I think she took the hint that I was not going to make her job easy.

She did not connect to any spirits on the other side like she claim she could do. My poor dead grandma and family members probably cringed when they saw me sitting there with a rock and lavender satchels trying to connect with them through this crazy lady.

The only thing she said in the hour long session that was remotely interesting was she said a professional man named Kevin would give me a job. Last week I did email the principal of Lincoln High School about a Social Studies position and his first name was Kevin. I guess we will wait and see.

Lavender satchels and rock

Lavender satchels and rock

For those of you interested in the Terror Con for next year in Rhode Island, here is the link: Terror Con

Here’s John Edward on Dr. Phil. Pretty interesting, check it out:

Are men’s magazine to blame for men’s obsession with the perfect woman?

One of the most popular men’s magazine is Men’s Health. It offers a variety of tips and advice on things we men and women are obsessed about such as: Fitness, Sex & Woman, Health, Nutrition, Weight Loss, Style and much more.I have to admit I even read this magazine and I’m pretty certain that many women read it as well. Obviously this magazine’s main objective is to cater to men and their interest. With article title such as, “The Sexiest Models in Men’s Health History”, it is no wonder that the online magazine gets a heavy amount of traffic. I even look to see who are these hot women and judge for myself if they are the sexy. I have to admit the women they picked are beautiful but also most of them are blond “bombshells”. I didn’t see any Asians, African Americans or any other noticeable ethnicity. This baffles me because I know there are tons of gorgeous ethnic women out there but yet they didn’t even feature one? I can’t really say I’m surprised by this lack of diversity because in most magazines the idea of beauty or what is sexy that is perpetrated seem to be the all “American girl” which equates to blonds with long legs, perfect body, long hair and big boobs. Before anybody gets mad, I’m not racist or a hater but this is just my observation. Also, I have to admit there are more magazines now today that features racially diverse models than a couple of years ago. However, the question I have is: Are men’s magazine to blame for men’s obsession with the perfect woman? Are men obsessed with blondes because that is mostly what are in the men’s magazine? Do men even care that the pictures are photo shopped, alter or modify to create these “perfect” images for their viewing pleasure? Is that why there is a rise in plastic surgery because women feel that they have to be perfect like these photo shopped women? What form’s a young man’s or young woman’s concept of beauty? Are magazines to blame for their unrealistic perception of beauty?

For those of you interested in seeing the photos of the sexiest women in “Men’s Health” here is the link: Men’s Health Magazine

If you want to see some samples of pictures of celebrities and models before and after photoshop, go to: